Locational Transition

[tcepsa]

After much discussion and thought, I have decided that the time is right for me to leave Woodbridge and move in with fortryll and xilet. Fortunately for me, they have also decided that the time is right for me to move in with them ^_^

So over the course of the next few weeks I shall be transferring the majority of my possessions to their place and taking up residence, and I'll be renting a van to haul the big stuff from elkor and margoeve's place probably on the weekend of May 13. I'll also probably be putting out a more formal request for help in a few weeks, once I have a better idea of the magnitude of the task; this is more of just an FYI.

In the past, I have often spent copious amounts of time at a partner's place, but never actually moved in. That generally led to a feeling of not really belonging, of imposing. I never really felt comfortable with the idea of crawling out of bed in the morning and flipping on the TV and finding a show I wanted to watch. It was their bed, their TV, and I didn't feel like I had the right. (Yeah, I know. Issues.)

But at their place it feels like I am more than just a perpetual guest who is wearing out his welcome. I've sat on the couch playing video games while fortryll knitted or worked on her spinning. I've made meals that I've chosen because I wanted to have that for supper, not because I thought it was something that they wanted. I've had computer guts strewn across the livingroom floor as I worked to install a new motherboard and not felt like I was unduly taking up space. When one of them tosses me the remote, it's because they want me to find something on that I'd be interested in watching, not because they want me to guess what they want to see. And when I want to have a quiet evening to myself, I'll have my own room in which to sequester myself.

I've had those things, to some degree or other, with friends before, but this will be the first time that one of them is my partner. I am really looking forward to it. I'm nervous because of the habits that I have developed in the past, and how easy it would be to fall back into those habits. But the only way that I will break them is by facing them, and I think that now is the time for me to take this step.

Comments

[kiss-kass.livejournal.com]

I can't help that day, but I have boxes and tape if you need it.

[fortryll.livejournal.com]

One of the things I've always hoped is that any home that I'm a part of is one where all guests feel welcome and comfortable. It means a lot to me that you've felt that way when you're at our place. And as I said, I think you're making Bit's life perfect by moving in :)

[make-your-move.livejournal.com]

I think if it makes you happy (all of you it seems *yay*!) Then you are doing the right thing :)

Hugs all of you.

congrats

[judyisis.livejournal.com]

I hope it works out well for you! You deserve all of the happiness in the world.
Please make sure I get your new mailing address so I can send things along before too long.
BIG HUGS
Judy

Re: congrats

[tcepsa.livejournal.com]

Thanks, will do ^_^

Side note: Any luck getting the keyboard/mouse working?

Re: congrats

[judyisis.livejournal.com]

not as of yet--was planning another phone call to get new advice probably next week--hopefully I'll catch you at a good time! Partly waiting to have the money to try the next things.

Re: congrats

[tcepsa.livejournal.com]

*nods* That makes sense. Days other than Tuesday and Friday are your best bet for catching me. In the meantime, I'm going to recommend that you check your local thrift stores; these days, most thrift stores usually have one or two keyboards lying around (though I don't know whether you'd be able to find a USB one, it wouldn't hurt to try another PS/2 one--the kind with the round connector--unless you've already tried that with a "known to be good" keyboard and it didn't work)