Locational Transition
Apr. 18th, 2006 12:01 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
tcepsaAfter much discussion and thought, I have decided that the time is right for me to leave Woodbridge and move in with ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
fortryll and xilet. Fortunately for me, they have also decided that the time is right for me to move in with them ^_^
So over the course of the next few weeks I shall be transferring the majority of my possessions to their place and taking up residence, and I'll be renting a van to haul the big stuff fromelkor and margoeve's place probably on the weekend of May 13. I'll also probably be putting out a more formal request for help in a few weeks, once I have a better idea of the magnitude of the task; this is more of just an FYI.
In the past, I have often spent copious amounts of time at a partner's place, but never actually moved in. That generally led to a feeling of not really belonging, of imposing. I never really felt comfortable with the idea of crawling out of bed in the morning and flipping on the TV and finding a show I wanted to watch. It was their bed, their TV, and I didn't feel like I had the right. (Yeah, I know. Issues.)
But at their place it feels like I am more than just a perpetual guest who is wearing out his welcome. I've sat on the couch playing video games whilefortryll knitted or worked on her spinning. I've made meals that I've chosen because I wanted to have that for supper, not because I thought it was something that they wanted. I've had computer guts strewn across the livingroom floor as I worked to install a new motherboard and not felt like I was unduly taking up space. When one of them tosses me the remote, it's because they want me to find something on that I'd be interested in watching, not because they want me to guess what they want to see. And when I want to have a quiet evening to myself, I'll have my own room in which to sequester myself.
I've had those things, to some degree or other, with friends before, but this will be the first time that one of them is my partner. I am really looking forward to it. I'm nervous because of the habits that I have developed in the past, and how easy it would be to fall back into those habits. But the only way that I will break them is by facing them, and I think that now is the time for me to take this step.
fortryll and xilet. Fortunately for me, they have also decided that the time is right for me to move in with them ^_^So over the course of the next few weeks I shall be transferring the majority of my possessions to their place and taking up residence, and I'll be renting a van to haul the big stuff from
elkor and margoeve's place probably on the weekend of May 13. I'll also probably be putting out a more formal request for help in a few weeks, once I have a better idea of the magnitude of the task; this is more of just an FYI.In the past, I have often spent copious amounts of time at a partner's place, but never actually moved in. That generally led to a feeling of not really belonging, of imposing. I never really felt comfortable with the idea of crawling out of bed in the morning and flipping on the TV and finding a show I wanted to watch. It was their bed, their TV, and I didn't feel like I had the right. (Yeah, I know. Issues.)
But at their place it feels like I am more than just a perpetual guest who is wearing out his welcome. I've sat on the couch playing video games while
fortryll knitted or worked on her spinning. I've made meals that I've chosen because I wanted to have that for supper, not because I thought it was something that they wanted. I've had computer guts strewn across the livingroom floor as I worked to install a new motherboard and not felt like I was unduly taking up space. When one of them tosses me the remote, it's because they want me to find something on that I'd be interested in watching, not because they want me to guess what they want to see. And when I want to have a quiet evening to myself, I'll have my own room in which to sequester myself.I've had those things, to some degree or other, with friends before, but this will be the first time that one of them is my partner. I am really looking forward to it. I'm nervous because of the habits that I have developed in the past, and how easy it would be to fall back into those habits. But the only way that I will break them is by facing them, and I think that now is the time for me to take this step.
