Relationship Hard Reset

[tcepsa]

Last night, Judy and I ended up having a long conversation during which we realized that we need to take a complete break from each other. I had hoped that we would be able to transition into friendship, but it looks like we need to take some time and "reset" first, and then try to make something like a fresh start in a few months and see whether we can establish a friendship again without me feeling like she's using me too much for support, or vice versa. To that end we're taking about a two month break from talking to each other, after which we'll see how things are going and whether we can and want to be friends.

So I am trying to avoid having expectations, and to keep my mind as open as possible and be okay with whatever happens. Right now, I'm just doing my best to remind myself that it isn't my job to take care of her, and that this is something that I cannot help her with. It is more energy than I can give without sacrificing myself, and sacrificing myself like that is what I am trying to stop doing.

Comments

[princesskaite.livejournal.com]

I hope everything works out as well as possible...

hugs
~K

[sharrainchains.livejournal.com]

I am so sorry - for you both. I have been there, and transitioning from love to friendship can be so difficult. The hard reset has been the only thing that has worked for me, although it takes me a little longer than a couple of months. I wish you both the best.

[margoeve.livejournal.com]

Catch me online or give me a call re: this, ok?

[belushi81x.livejournal.com]

I'm not really sure what to say... other than to let you know that I'm being supportive from half a continent away.