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[tcepsa]

The art of helping someone to stop beating themselves up for a transgression that they believe they have committed against you.

Personally, I'd be very tempted to use the word "forgiveness" to express this concept, but I don't think that that's quite how most people use that word... or am I mistaken? If I say "Please forgive me," would you interpret that as "Please help me to stop beating myself up for doing this to you"? If you say, "I forgive you," do you mean, "Don't beat yourself up over it on my account"?

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This is my opinion.

[elkor.livejournal.com]

Forgiveness is granted when a wrong has been committed.

Only the person who has been wronged can grant forgiveness.

If someone is beating themselves up over something that wasn't a transgression, then no forgiveness can be granted.

I believe the word you are looking for is absolve.

Re: This is my opinion.

[tcepsa.livejournal.com]

Hmm... yes, absolve does seem to fit at least a little better... while I think that it still doesn't quite capture the essence of what I'm looking for it is definitely closer, and it may just be my own personal definition that's out of whack.