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[tcepsa]

The art of helping someone to stop beating themselves up for a transgression that they believe they have committed against you.

Personally, I'd be very tempted to use the word "forgiveness" to express this concept, but I don't think that that's quite how most people use that word... or am I mistaken? If I say "Please forgive me," would you interpret that as "Please help me to stop beating myself up for doing this to you"? If you say, "I forgive you," do you mean, "Don't beat yourself up over it on my account"?

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[tcepsa.livejournal.com]

Brilliant catch--you're absolutely right! I believe that the teaching aspect is what was missing from the concepts of forgive and absolve as they stand now--that's definitely what was bugging me about the other two; they're a kind of "Okay, I forgive/absolve you, go back about your life!" Whereas it sounds like you're tracking with what I'm trying to express here, which is more involved on the part of the one doing the [...], in the way of helping the person receiving [...] understand.

Will continue to ponder this, but it seems like triangulating between the three of those is the closest thing yet--probably close enough for me ^_^